Rejecting our pain also leads to suffering because when we do that we make an enemy of our experience. Experience is just that and it is meant to be experienced. Rejecting experience (including our thoughts and feelings about it) is fruitless, deepening the conflict that we would like to eliminate from our lives.
Physical pain (including mental/emotional pain) may be effectively addressed by looking clearly, directly and impassionedly at what is actually happening, without rejecting it, clinging to it, ignoring it, or elaborating upon it. When we choose to do this, we will notice the true nature of pain as being transitory, mutable and impermanent. It is not solid and seamless. It appears and then dissipates over time, like all manifest phenomena .
| By keeping an open mind we perceive our situation clearly and accurately. |
By keeping an open mind we perceive our situation clearly and accurately. By learning patience we may sit with it and observe without attempting to alter, judge or make any assumptions. We need to realize that we are never alone. Any pain or suffering we feel personally has also been felt by others. No one’s life is free from pain and of course everyone wishes to be free from pain and suffering. We all deserve compassion for we are all in this together.
Simply watching, observing our pain, without attempting to change it we will notice that it changes on its own. Practicing in this manner brings great comfort and reassurance. We notice that pain is no more permanent than anything else and that suffering doesn’t arise out of the pain but instead from our thoughts and feelings about it. Through this practice we will gain confidence in our ability to work with and through whatever might arise in the present moment.
As an old Buddhist expression goes; “If you can do something about it, no need to worry. If you can’t do anything about it, no need to worry.”
So focus on the power of observing what is, and letting go of the thoughts and feelings that tend to develop a storyline and you’ll see that the storyline supports the suffering and without it suffering disappears. One thing is certain, pain is sure to repeatedly come our way in this life. It is inevitable. But the good news is it is possible to choose whether or not we will turn our pain into suffering, or simply leave pain as it is, to arise and dissolve on its own, without our interference, elaboration or rejection. This is always our option, always!
